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January 20, 2005
Priorities
The Heretic has a long post and is getting a ton of attention. When I read the post and skimmed the comments I first wanted to do like everyone else, give him advice, tell him what I think and so on. Instead I decided to focus on a different aspect.
The first time I ever tried to help a teenager was when I started talking to a seventeen-year-old girl in Williamsburg who was having an affair with a married man. I was pretty much 'on the fringe' at the time yet I was smart enough to understand that she went too far. Knowing that I can't really do anything to help her myself I was trying to get her to speak to someone who could. I could not find anyone in her community to help her!
Reading a post about a chasidish yingerman who will just “find from time to time a new love,” made me realize that these are the people who make things like that happen! Her education may have been lacking, yet it is people like Heretic who will help her go way beyond the fringes. (Not to imply that 'his girls' are under-age...)
Could he choose his second option and basically become a baal tshuva? Yes he can if he finds the right mentor and takes it slowly. But he hardly concerns me at the moment. He will never get anywhere if he doesn't really want to and from his post it sounds like he doesn't really want.
The only thing I'd recommend to you, Heretic, is that if you want to continue doing what you're doing and worse, don't use other people.
If you, the reader, 'feel it,' go to this discussion or email me, and add a name. Let us help those who want to be helped.
Posted by notepad at January 20, 2005 06:36 PM
Comments
What makes you think he is fooling around with frum woman?
Personally I know of "shiener yidden" leaders of our community that are into this stuff.
So stop being norrow-minded and judgmental.
Posted by: Hoile shietel at January 20, 2005 11:14 PM
Since when is ‘"shiener yidden" leaders of our community that are into this stuff’ an answer? If that is an answer I can do every aveirah in the book!
‘stop being norrow-minded and judgmental.’ Read some of my archives.
Posted by: Shlomo at January 21, 2005 07:57 AM
I dont disagree with you.
I'm only bringing to your attention the fact that guys like Heretic aren't necessarily the prototypical pervs. the way you were portraying them to be.
Posted by: Hoile shietel at January 21, 2005 03:00 PM